6/02/2006 03:46:00 PM|||MarcieCrim|||

The internet. 10 years ago it meant absolutely nothing to me and most of the world. Now I have two friends (internet friends) that are publically working through their issues about moving in together. I just left a comment on a blog giving relationship advice to two people I have never met. And I feel like I have the right to do that because they have put it on the internet.

One friend lives in PA and she is packing her stuff to move to KY to be with this internet man. They fortunately have met, have fallen in love, and plan to live together in Frankfort. The man has told the woman that it is, "in spirit", a temporary move so don't pack everything because it may not work out. The man can't understand why this upsets the woman even though they both agreed on a trial period of 6 months to see if they want to permanently (whatever that means) live together.

This was my response: I'm worried about your "temporary move" thing. I realize you're trying to be smart about it, but it sounds like someone saying "Marry me, but in case we get divorced go ahead and put your name on the stuff you want when we split up". Terribly unromantic and scared. Every move is a possible temporary move, I don't think it's wise to begin treating it like that now. But then again, what do I know? I wish you both the best of luck.

The woman has replied saying: Wow. It's like you've opened my brain up and took out what I wanted to say, but had no idea how to say it. It's where he and I butt heads sometimes--he wants to always be the logical one, and I'm an idealist. So while I know he wants to be smart about it, it still hurts my feelings. I don't think he realizes this.

(Most) Women do not accept logic like a man does. Even if she is a logical woman she doesn't always want to hear your logic, sometimes she wants to hear your crazy romantic dreams instead. A woman can begin dating a man who tells her "I never want to get married". That is a fair statement. However, at different points in the relationship if the woman is the marrying kind she will wish and hope and suspect that the man wants to marry her. Not logical, but true. If you tell the woman over and over that you don't want to marry her, whether it be in conversation with her or in a public situation, she will begin to feel like shit even though she entered into the relationship with the man saying "I never want to get married".

This is not logical, I know, but it is the truth.

And as always...there are exceptions to every rule.

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